In an experiment used to identify the differences between a positive and a negative mindset, two young 8 year old boys were unkowingly used as subjects. One of the boys was whiney, complaining and largely negative in his outlook, whilst the other was happy, care-free with a very positive nature. The boys were placed in two different rooms, the doors locked and they were told someone would be back to let them out in 60 minutes. The first boy was placed into a bright and colourful room with all the most amazing, fun and exciting toys an eight year old could possibly hope for. The second boy was placed into a dark, drab and stinky room full of nothing but a large mountain of freshly processed hay … horse manure that is!
Sixty minutes later the door was opened on the first boy who the researchers expected to find laughing and having a great time with all the wonderful toys. Instead he was found sitting in the corner of the room bawling inconsolably. When asked what was wrong, through his tears, the little boy said, “These toys are no good! The wheel fell off that toy car. I can’t ride the bike because I keep falling off. The remote control robot is boring. The video games are too difficult. The ball bounced off the wall and hit me in the head. I’m hungry and there’s no food. It’s not fair … I’m having a terrible time!”
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Hi, I'm Andrew. For over 25 years my journey has seen a professional football career, 7 day-a-week hard work in my own wellness businesses, becoming the author of three best-selling books & three eBooks and the heartbreak of losing my mum to cancer.
I found myself in a dark place after the death of my mother. Not just emotionally, but financially, physically and mentally. I began to imagine what my life could be like if I believed anything was possible ... it worked. After some serious changes in my thinking and in my daily actions, my life began to change for the better.
I now live a life of passion, of choice and totally in alignment with my core values. Every day is pure joy spent doing what I love with the people I love ... I believe it is the only way to live!
As a result, I am now passionate about helping people believe in their own power, use more of their potential, expand their personal boundaries and create positive long term change so they can live a happier, healthier and more dynamic life. It sounds simple but it is profoundly deep and meaningful. Through my 'motivational' speaking, writing, online writing workshops, coaching & mentoring, media, wellness programs and seminars I strive to ignite the passion in people to inspire and motivate them to believe in their own amazing power.
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
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I was walking through a large shopping centre the other day and I came to a well-known bookshop. I went in and asked at the counter if they had in stock a copy of a great new book called Accidental Author by Andrew Jobling. It’s just recently released so I was excited and expecting to see it on the shelf. The moment they told me that they didn’t have it in stock I had a choice. I could ‘spit the dummy’, stamp my feet and whine becasue it wasn’t on the shelf. Instead I thought … this is an opportunity. I told the girl that I was the author and asked whether they ever have authors come and do book signings and events.
She said that they do and they love having local authors come in to the store to promote their books. She gave me the number and email address of the store manager and I left feeling very glad I asked the question. It was Oprah Winfrey who said it … ‘you get in life what you have the courage to ask for.’ Boy … has it worked for her!
‘You are where you are until you’re somewhere else’ … Is that the most obvious and ridiculous statement you’ve ever heard? I agree! Let me try and give it some perspective and meaning … If you’re standing in front of an open fire and you get too hot, what do you do? You move to a cooler place … right? So with just a few simple steps you moved from a place where you were too hot to a more comfortable place … you were where you were until you were somewhere else. My little dog Joia (pictured on the left) was just looking at me with that ‘please pat me’ look on her face, but she was out of my reach. She walked over to me so I could pat her and scratch her tummy … she was where she was until she was somewhere else! Are you still totally confused? Bear with me …
I have just given some obvious examples of how simple it is to move from somewhere uncomfortable, undesirable or too far away to a more desirable and comfortable place. It is a simple concept to understand yet, outside these simple and obvious examples, too many people never take the simple steps or make the move.
Pockets are incredibly valuable storage spaces. Don’t we love them … in our jeans, our jackets, our wallets/purses, our hand/man bags and our suit/brief cases? I don’t know about you, but I get excited discovering new pockets where I can store pens, business cards, coins, notebooks, phones and all those other little valuable things that often go without a home and then get lost. I can see the immense value of the pocket and I appreciate that small space … how it can make life easier and more organised. I can even see how these little pockets of space can actually make our lives more productive, give us more space to think and help us be happier. So, if pockets of space are valuable, what could small pockets of time do for your life?
I believe that utilising small pockets of time effectively can totally transform your life … it happened for me. I was working 7 days per week and 15 hours per day in two businesses when I made the irrational and illogical decision to write my first book. The ‘time’ thing was a big issue for me and when I thought about trying to find one, two or three hours at a time to write, I knew it wouldn’t happen … I just didn’t have those periods of time to spare.
You were put on this planet for a reason … not just to take up space or to provide carbon dioxide for the plants! You are a unique and amazing miracle. You have a potential that - right now - you may not understand or believe, but one that means there are very few things that are not possible for you to have, do or become. By the end of this blog my goal is that you start to really believe in your power, your unique ability and your untapped potential. It is my desire, after reading this post, that you will lift yourself up off the comfortable place you are currently positioned, move from the safe ground you are living on and take yourself to the most exciting and exhilerating place … living on the edge!
What do I mean by living on the edge? I mean pursuing that dream which will take some discomfort to achieve. I mean stop believing the lies you are telling yourself … that you’re not capable enough, not strong enough and not deserving enough. I mean start believing in the most amazing power that I know you have within you. I mean push yourself, test the boundaries and see what amazing things you can produce. Live on the edge of logic, the edge of reason and the edge of, what most people would consider, sanity!
There are laws of the universe happening all around us, everyday … whether we know about them, understand them, believe them or not. For example, take the law of gravity. You may not understand it or believe it but the moment you take a step off your roof-top and plummet to the ground you will know irrefutably that the law of gravity is a truth and cannot be denied. What about 2 + 2? We can hypothesise, calculate and debate but every time, no matter which way you look at it, 2 + 2 = 4! It’s not a guess and it’s not up for debate … it’s truth! Success is the same. I want you to feel excited and never be discouraged again because, just like 2 + 2, there is a predictable formula for success … it is truth. Follow the formula and you will be successful, it’s that simple … are you excited?
Well, maybe you’d be more excited if you knew what the formula was! So here is my version of the predictable, universal and totally truthful formula for success;
There are some things in life which excite us and others which depress us. Ironically the things that excite us often require us to do things that depress or discourage us! Have you ever heard the saying, ‘everything you want that you don’t currently have is outside of your comfort zone’? Could there be any worse news than that? ‘You mean I can’t just sit on the couch watching my favorite show and expect money to come flooding into my bank account?’ ‘Does that also mean hitting the snooze button each morning will not burn enough calories to keep me lean, fit and healthy?’ What I’m saying - if success, health and happiness is what you want - then … get comfortable with being uncomfortable!
Looking back at my early days of playing professional football, I’m very grateful for how it conditioned me to be comfortable with discomfort! At that time I remember the process being very disturbing … nothing but lung-busting, body-pounding and mind-blowing pain. I hated the thought of training ... I was fearful whether I could physically do it and I was tormented by the extra-ordinary pain I experienced with each and every session. But, I always did it! I got stronger mentally and physically, I got fitter and I felt more confident and more unstoppable with each session.
Have you ever noticed that you are fiercely protective of and loyal to the things you own? What about your car? You clean it, fuel it, drive it carefully and get very upset when it is scratched or dented … well I do anyway. But what about the car you have hired for the weekend? All the insurance is covered, the excess is eliminated and you can give it back in any state you like. How do you treat it? Do you drive it carefully? Do you care if it gets scratched? Do you buy premium fuel or just regular? Why do you care less and treat this care differently (if you do that is)? The reason is simple …. Ownership!
I heard a great story recently that highlights this concept of ownership. Krispy Kreme (KK) is one of the most successful donut retailers on the planet and the gentleman telling the story was a serious Krispy Kreme Donut devotee. The KK donuts are best when straight out of the oven and are warm and fresh. When this happens a light is turned on in the store window to let passers-by know that the donuts are hot and fresh out of the oven.
In our efforts and focus to achieve more in our lives, the biggest mistake we can make is to look at someone who is successful in a particular area and draw wrong conclusions. These people often make success look so easy that we can incorrectly assume that they are lucky … they must have natural ability, good genetics, special talent and super confidence. In 99% of cases this would be a totally wrong assumption. Those same people, who now make their success look so simple and natural, were once beginners … just like all of us!
I have spoken before about great Australian 1500m swimmer Kieren Perkins. Amongst many of his swimming achievements, he swam in three consecutive Olympic Games 1500m finals (1992, 1996 and 2000) winning two gold and one silver medal. He is truly a sporting legend in Australia and one of the all-time great 1500m swimmers in the world … but it didn’t all start that way.
Life happens to all of us. Some of the things we experience are in our control and others are not. Those circumstances that occur within our control are often lessons for us to learn and indicate changes we need to make. If we ignore them the same situations will keep occuring until we actually learn the lesson, take control and make the changes required. Often the situations we get most upset and impacted by are the ones we have no control over ... things like the weather, the economy, the government and the attitudes & actions of other people. What I have found to be true is that when we accept that those things are out of our control, when we can believe and say ‘it is what it is’, then we can see the positives and gifts that are available as a result of those seemingly undesirable predicaments.
This is not always easy to do - for any of us - so when I come across an inspiring example I obviously need to share it with you. I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and she shared with me a disturbing occurrence she recently experienced. She will be reading this blog and so if I get some of the details wrong I hope she understands … as always it’s the point that matters.