Each week I send out my blog to you and the other people on my database, and each week there are people who ‘unsubscribe’. I’m okay with that, I don’t take it personally ... in fact I can understand it. I’m annoying & the blogs are annoying! Annoying because they’re always so frustratingly positive! ‘There’s always a sliver-lining’, ‘look for the lesson’, ‘your attitude is everything’, ‘the universe will deliver’, ‘be optimistic’, ‘leave room for miracles’ ... blah, blah, blah! They may all be true, and they may all suggest a better way to live ... but I’m sure they are annoying to some people who don’t always want to be positive. Sometimes we just want to ‘spit the dummy’ and be cranky!
Not long ago I had one of those days ... it was a shocker! I tried all the strategies I know and write about each week, but I couldn’t be bothered with any of the positive mumbo jumbo! I just wanted to have a crappy attitude ... I wanted to ‘spit the dummy’ ... and I wanted to be a real sooky-la-la!
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Hi, I'm Andrew. For over 25 years my journey has seen a professional football career, 7 day-a-week hard work in my own wellness businesses, becoming the author of three best-selling books & three eBooks and the heartbreak of losing my mum to cancer.
I found myself in a dark place after the death of my mother. Not just emotionally, but financially, physically and mentally. I began to imagine what my life could be like if I believed anything was possible ... it worked. After some serious changes in my thinking and in my daily actions, my life began to change for the better.
I now live a life of passion, of choice and totally in alignment with my core values. Every day is pure joy spent doing what I love with the people I love ... I believe it is the only way to live!
As a result, I am now passionate about helping people believe in their own power, use more of their potential, expand their personal boundaries and create positive long term change so they can live a happier, healthier and more dynamic life. It sounds simple but it is profoundly deep and meaningful. Through my 'motivational' speaking, writing, online writing workshops, coaching & mentoring, media, wellness programs and seminars I strive to ignite the passion in people to inspire and motivate them to believe in their own amazing power.
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Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
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‘Yeah, yeah ... I’ve heard it but I don’t believe it!’ I’d heard all this talk about the universe and that you can attract what you focus on but, to be honest, I never really believed it. It didn’t make any logical sense to me ... even though many things seemed to happen that I simply put down to luck or coincidence. Then I started asking myself ... what is luck & coincidence? It’s just as abstract a concept as is the ‘law of attraction’ & the notion that the universe can deliver to us what we want.
What’s recently intrigued me is how ‘luck & coincidence’ seem to happen just as we are immersed in an idea or captivated by the pursuit of some goal. There has to be more to it and, call me naive but, I choose to believe there is. I had a wonderful example of this happen to me just this week.
Have you ever heard the saying, ‘Insanity is doing the same thing over & over and expecting a different result’? I know I’m insane because there are things I do that I’m so attached to and, for some reason, I resist letting go of them. Even though, by hanging on, they are holding me back from achieving what I really want. Do you relate? I’m about to tell you a story that immediately made me realise how silly i’ve been ... it’s inspired me to re-think and to ‘let go of the banana’!
Spider monkeys are an in-demand species for zoos all over the world and are actually very easy to capture. A banana is placed in a clear container with a very narrow opening. The container is tied securely to a tree and then left on the ground in areas inhabited by these monkeys. The opening at the top of the jar, or whatever container they use, is very narrow, but wide enough for the Spider Monkey to squeeze its hand and arm in to.
Logic is a wonderful thing but, in life, it’s not always consistent ... have you ever noticed that? Why is it that some people achieve things which seem to ‘defy logic’? How can certain people create things that other people don’t seem able to replicate? It’s a mystery to me. I think it’s even a mystery to those people who experience ‘logic defying’ events on a regular basis. The important thing here is not that you can understand what is happening, just that you believe it’s a possibility!
I’ve just experienced this for myself over the last week. I’m very grateful to my business coach who, just recently, challenged me to think about achieving something that, to me at the time, really did defy logic. We were having a conversation, with only a few days left to go in September, about how I was tracking with my goals for the month. I had set a logical and realistic goal which I was going to hit comfortably. She challenged me to push for a bigger goal!
Before I start this week, and as a disclaimer, I want to let you know that I’m writing this blog for myself. I’m just sharing it with you in case you relate to where I’m at and can benefit from it, as much as I know I will. Really ... I just need to give myself a good ‘talking to’ and I find writing the best way to do it. Logically, I know how much potential I have. As a result of past successes, I believe in my ability to create great things ... in my life and in the lives of others. So, the question I have to ask is, why do I often find myself struggling to move forward? Why am I, at times, trying to ‘find myself’?
What does that mean anyway? Trying to ‘find myself’? I’m here ... I’m not lost. I believe the statement, ‘I need to find myself’ is just an excuse to not get up, get out and do what is required to live the life I want. It can also come in the form of, ‘I need to think about it,’ ‘I need to do some research,’ and ‘I need meditate on it.’ Each of these statements is a natural reflex response as a result of one over-riding emotion ... FEAR!
anxiety and mental illness.’ Another defines it as, ‘an idea or thought that continually preoccupies or intrudes on a person's mind.’ I’m here to come to the rescue of this misunderstood & often mis-used word. I want to promote its application into your life, for a period, to help you get up, get out & get what you really want.
The definition of ‘obsession’ I like the best comes from the British Macmillan Dictionary and defines the word as, ‘an emotional state in which someone or something is so important to you that you are always thinking about them, in a way that seems extreme to other people.’
If I could make one recommendation to you, it would be ... take some time out, get away and spend time with people who have a bigger vision than you. That’s just what Laura and I did last weekend. We heard from amazing people, we celebrated success and we came home refreshed, inspired & fired up. On Saturday each member of the group shared their story and it was one, in particular, who grabbed my attention.
He spoke about the challenges, distractions and obstacles he’d faced on his journey. He honestly & openly shared about how they had held him back ... until he had an epiphany. He stopped and he thought about what his absolute perfect day would look like. He imagined how it would feel to be living that day by choice, and he started to question everything that he was doing. He asked himself, ‘is what I’m doing today leading me to my perfect day?’
Are you ready for some blunt, in-your-face observations? Please know that everything I say comes from a deep desire to help you have more health, happiness and success in your life. I’m about to tell you why you & I don’t have the optimal health, financial strength and wonderful relationships we desire. It’s very simple ... we’re asking ourselves the wrong questions!
Every day, in every situation we ask ourselves questions about how we should approach things and what we should do. What we then do, where we end up and what we achieve in our life is not a reflection of the answers but instead the questions we ask. Be very, very careful about the questions you’re asking yourself!
I don’t know about you, but my immediate reaction to a detour is annoyance. It’s inconvenient, a nuisance and often appears at the worst possible time. But then, is it really a bad thing? The definition of ‘detour’ is; a long or roundabout route that is taken to avoid something or to visit somewhere along the way. There are two key elements in this definition that should encourage you to embrace the detour.
Life is an amazing place of surprise and joy ... if we choose to look at it that way. Rather than be annoyed by the detour, what if we could be excited and grateful because of it? Let’s have a closer look at the elements of the above definition that I’m talking about. The detour will re-direct you to ‘avoid something’ and/or ‘visit somewhere’ ... both are desirable outcomes. So why is our perception of detours often so negative?
Have you ever been inside a box? It’s cramped, dark, hot and very limiting on your movements. How do you feel when you get out? Free, as you can enjoy the light of day, you can stretch your arms & legs, you can breath and you have all the space in the world to do whatever you want. Our thinking can be just like that box. It can limit us, control us and hold us back ... or it can set us free!
Getting out of a box isn’t difficult ... I mean, it’s just cardboard so how hard can it be to just tear it and break through? The same applies for our mental box ... it really isn’t that hard to break through and change the thinking that may be holding us back. We just need to be deliberate and open to options that will initially challenge the way we have always done things.