I don’t know about you, but my immediate reaction to a detour is annoyance. It’s inconvenient, a nuisance and often appears at the worst possible time. But then, is it really a bad thing? The definition of ‘detour’ is; a long or roundabout route that is taken to avoid something or to visit somewhere along the way. There are two key elements in this definition that should encourage you to embrace the detour.
Life is an amazing place of surprise and joy ... if we choose to look at it that way. Rather than be annoyed by the detour, what if we could be excited and grateful because of it? Let’s have a closer look at the elements of the above definition that I’m talking about. The detour will re-direct you to ‘avoid something’ and/or ‘visit somewhere’ ... both are desirable outcomes. So why is our perception of detours often so negative?
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Hi, I'm Andrew. For over 25 years my journey has seen a professional football career, 7 day-a-week hard work in my own wellness businesses, becoming the author of three best-selling books & three eBooks and the heartbreak of losing my mum to cancer.
I found myself in a dark place after the death of my mother. Not just emotionally, but financially, physically and mentally. I began to imagine what my life could be like if I believed anything was possible ... it worked. After some serious changes in my thinking and in my daily actions, my life began to change for the better.
I now live a life of passion, of choice and totally in alignment with my core values. Every day is pure joy spent doing what I love with the people I love ... I believe it is the only way to live!
As a result, I am now passionate about helping people believe in their own power, use more of their potential, expand their personal boundaries and create positive long term change so they can live a happier, healthier and more dynamic life. It sounds simple but it is profoundly deep and meaningful. Through my 'motivational' speaking, writing, online writing workshops, coaching & mentoring, media, wellness programs and seminars I strive to ignite the passion in people to inspire and motivate them to believe in their own amazing power.
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Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
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Have you ever been inside a box? It’s cramped, dark, hot and very limiting on your movements. How do you feel when you get out? Free, as you can enjoy the light of day, you can stretch your arms & legs, you can breath and you have all the space in the world to do whatever you want. Our thinking can be just like that box. It can limit us, control us and hold us back ... or it can set us free!
Getting out of a box isn’t difficult ... I mean, it’s just cardboard so how hard can it be to just tear it and break through? The same applies for our mental box ... it really isn’t that hard to break through and change the thinking that may be holding us back. We just need to be deliberate and open to options that will initially challenge the way we have always done things.
The day had started badly! Even before I was out of bed at 6:30am there was a message on my phone from a person, whom I was meeting that day, cancelling the appointment and not wanting to reschedule. It was an appointment I was looking forward to ... the person was a potential new business partner and there were some exciting possibilities. When I looked at the message, not long after getting up, I felt my heart sink a bit ... you know the feeling? Then, all of a sudden, as I wasn’t expecting the cancellation, my mood dropped.
Have you ever been there? Have you ever had something not go the way you want and then allow it to immediately impact your mood, your decisions, your expectations and your actions for that whole day? Well, I went into sooky mode!
The other day I was just about to leave home to visit a friend who lived quite a long way from my home. I really had no idea where she lived yet I was still very confident that I would get there. It was simple because I knew where I was coming from, I knew the actual address and I had a roadmap that would show me - even talk to me and tell me - step by step how to get there. Then I thought about how I would get to her place without an address or roadmap … in reality I would just end up driving around aimlessly & never reach my destination. Hmmm ... that sounded like an article to me!
It seems like a no-brainer ... if you want to get somewhere, you need to know where you’re at, know where you want to go and have a map to direct you there. It doesn’t come much simpler than that ... does it? Then how come so many people are wandering aimlessly through life with no direction ... suffering from a lack of purpose, poor health, financial issues and strained relationships?
I was having a bit of a sook this week ... as I tend to do every now and then. You know, the standard whinge about not enough time, people not co-operating and things not going to plan? Then, like magic ... out of the universe came the big leather boot to kick me up the backside, slap me around and help me get over myself! I was getting caught up in my own self-importance ... then in two consecutive days I heard stories about two amazing people that has not only brought me back to reality with a thud, but inspired me beyond belief. My problems are insignificant and my capacity way beyond my current belief ... yours is too by the way!
Have you ever used any or all of the phrases, “I’ve no time”, “I’m too tired”, “It’s too hard”, “I’m not qualified”, “It’s not possible” or “I can’t do it”? We all have! In our head we often believe we are not capable or that forces are too heavily stacked against us. Yet, there are people out there with much tougher circumstances than you and I who are doing things that seem super-human. The difference between them and us is not physical, intellectual or talent ... it lies 100% in the 6 inches between our ears. Our capacity is in our head!
Life as a human is interesting ... in many ways! We’re constantly being tested from all angles ... tests to keep us learning, keep us growing and keep us stretching ourselves to be better. Have you ever wondered why certain ‘problems’ keep reccuring in your life? The answer is simple ... challenges & tests will continue to happen until you learn the lesson and make the changes you need to make. The first step is to make sure you know what the underlying problem really is!
Towards the end of my football career, as I was surging towards the ripe old age of 35, I began to suffer from regular soft tissue injuries. I’d strain a hamstring here and a calf muscle there. Simple logic told me that if I have a hamstring injury then I need to treat that area of my body ... made sense to me! So I went to the physiotherapist who would massage the direct area, give me ultra-sound treatment on that injured spot, give me stretches to do and prescribe me with anti-inflammory tablets.
At the age of 24 I was sacked by the professional football club I was playing for ... told I was getting too old! I kept playing and in my 30’s I was getting told by people all around me that I was way too old! In my late 30’s & early 40’s I was training hard and often cautioned by people to be careful as I was getting older. Now, as I am two months away from 50, I know I’m the perfect age and it’s never too late to achieve greatness!
Age is relative ... isn’t it? Do you remember when you were in kindergarten and how those primary school kids seemed so old? Can you recall being in primary school and how hard it was to ever imagine being as old as those secondary school teenagers? As a secondary school student wasn’t it hard to imagine being old enough to be at university or even working for a living?
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I think it’s time we looked at things from a different perspective ... a positive and empowering one. I hope you are okay with that! Way too often we look at our current circumstances, which we’re not happy with, and focus on the mistakes, poor choices and experiences of our past to explain where we now are in our life. Hence the quote, ‘your past is not your future.’
To a dog, how amazing would a roast chicken look? Immediately their eyes widen, saliva starts flowing, their balance & athleticism improve dramatically and they start doing things you never knew they could do! They’re actually obedient when they want to be ... especially when roast chicken is on offer! For dogs, roast chicken is a temptation that can have incredibly negative and harmful consequences.
Our dog, Mr Big, is a notorious scavenger! He never seems to get enough food. Once he polishes off his own bowl of food, he is patiently poised for the next opportunity to eat. When our other dog, Joia, is distracted for even a split second and before any of us realise it, he has scoffed down her bowl of food as well!
I am currently inspired and excited but, to be honest, also petrified! Laura and I have just been to an amazing weekend conference that has shaken things up a bit. There were great speakers who have achieved wonderful things in their lives ... they helped me clarify what I want and how I want to live.
That’s the inspiring and exciting bit! The part that petrified me was & is the thought of what I have to do to achieve it. I am at a point in my life when, as much as I am grateful for what I have and proud of myself for what I have achieved, I want to do, be & have more than I have ever had. I have been feeling this way for a while but just banging away at doing the same old things I have always done and ... surprise, surprise getting exactly the same result!