Have you ever had an argument with someone or performed badly at something and … didn’t really know why? When we think of the causes of most arguments, they’re almost always insignificant and petty … would you agree? The great news is that they’re incredibly easy to avoid. When we think about poor performances at work, business, sport, writing or any other aspirations, they can be devastating and heartbreaking … can’t they? They can also be very easily prevented. Often the main reason for these undesirable circumstances occuring has little to do with the person or job at hand. In many cases it’s because of baggage that’s been brought from one situation to the next … from the first to the second space!
Have you ever had a bad day at work and then come home to the family in a foul mood? Has that mood ever negatively impacted the time you spent and the relationship with your family? Have you ever had a fight with someone or some other bad experience just before needing to focus on something else? Then consequently were you unable to give that project the attention it needed and delivered a sub-standard result?
Imagine what your life could be like if ...
Hi, I'm Andrew. For over 25 years my journey has seen a professional football career, 7 day-a-week hard work in my own wellness businesses, becoming the author of three best-selling books & three eBooks and the heartbreak of losing my mum to cancer.
I found myself in a dark place after the death of my mother. Not just emotionally, but financially, physically and mentally. I began to imagine what my life could be like if I believed anything was possible ... it worked. After some serious changes in my thinking and in my daily actions, my life began to change for the better.
I now live a life of passion, of choice and totally in alignment with my core values. Every day is pure joy spent doing what I love with the people I love ... I believe it is the only way to live!
As a result, I am now passionate about helping people believe in their own power, use more of their potential, expand their personal boundaries and create positive long term change so they can live a happier, healthier and more dynamic life. It sounds simple but it is profoundly deep and meaningful. Through my 'motivational' speaking, writing, online writing workshops, coaching & mentoring, media, wellness programs and seminars I strive to ignite the passion in people to inspire and motivate them to believe in their own amazing power.
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
Please enjoy Andrew's blogs and please feel free to add any comments you see appropriate.
Have you ever baked a cake? I have … once, when I was a child, and I vowed never to do it again! If you’re anything like me, when it came out of the oven, the cake wasn’t pretty. It was uneven, it was flat and it had sunk in the middle. I looked at it, went into my usual sooky mode and was just about to throw it in the bin when my mother looked at the cake, looked at my irresitably needy face and stated with confidence, ‘we can fix this!’ Before I knew what was happening, she had trimmed the excess to make it round, used the cut-offs to fill the sunken middle, iced it and together we decorated it - it looked amazing! How she turned that rubbishy lump of flour, egg, sugar and butter into this amazing masterpiece I will never know. What I do know is that the cake couldn’t be decorated until it had been baked … even if baked atrociously!
The good news is that I’m not trying to teach you how to bake a cake! What I am trying to do is highlight an incredibly important principle which is …unless you actually finish what you start – no matter how rough and raw it may be - you can never create the masterpiece you want. Nothing can be perfected until it’s finished!
I believe every person on the planet is important, special, talented and deserving of the very best. Think about who you are and where you came from ... I wrote a blog back in January 2010 called, ‘you are one in 250 million’. I wrote about the fact that you were once a sperm, along with another 249, 999, 999 others, who set off on a mission to be the first to fertilize an egg. You - yes you - overcame insurmountable odds, a punishing immune system, overwhelming competition and a complex maze of paths and tubes to be the one and only one to fertilise that egg! You are good … really good! You have courage, you have stamina, you have persistence, you have resilience and you have a purpose. I believe you are absolutely amazing and are deserving of the best … but it doesn’t matter what I think. It only matters what you believe and will accept for yourself and your life.
This is a dumb example but it just happened and reinforced to me what I’m willing to accept and not accept for myself and the people I’m trying to help. I’m running a weekend workshop this coming weekend and the venue had been booked for two months. A few weeks ago I got a call to say that the room I’d booked was no longer available but that there was another space vacant. I made the rookie mistake of not checking the new venue before confirming the booking.
How often do we try to achieve certain things in our life? Everyday right? How often do we honestly feel like we need more will-power, knowledge, money, talent and experience or it can’t happen? Probably most days! I have learned one irrefutable fact over the years and that is … there is just one requirement for you to find the solution, develop the strategy and create any outcome you want. Do you want to know what it is? Are you ready? It will blow your mind! You’ve probably never heard of this before. The answer to any question, the secret to find every solution and the best way to become a super achiever … set a goal, commit to that goal and then watch the creativity flow!
Laura and I have some big goals at the moment. We have a big-picture vision to be living on the Amalfi Coast in Italy by the end of 2017. To make that dream a reality we need to be in a certain financial position. To create that financial position in two and a half years we need to take action ... not next year, not next week, not tomorrow but now!
always tipped in your favour … no matter what.
Here’s a great story called ‘The Perfect Dress’:
We have two beautiful fluffy four-legged children! Mr Big and Joia are the greatest joy and loves of our life – with the exception of each other. Joia is our gorgeous little princess who is cream coloured and Mr Big is our little man who is black and white. The other day I was looking for Mr Big and couldn’t find him anywhere. I looked all over the house, inside and out. Several times I walked past the back room which is right next to the laundry … it’s often the place I dump the clean clothes before we fold them and put them away. This day there was a big pile of clean clothes on the floor which I took a cursory glance at each time I walked past. The third time I walked past, still with no sign of Mr Big, I looked more closely at this pile of clothes and guess what I saw?
Have you ever seen the book called ‘Where’s Wally?’? It’s a picture book about a boy wearing a red and white striped top who is easily camouflaged in a large group of people … the task is to find him. It’s not easy to find him with a fleeting look, but with some focus and greater attention his location becomes apparent. So I stood and stared at this pile of clothes and out of nowhere Mr Big appeared in front of my eyes … he had been lying there, camouflaged by the clothes, the whole time.
A salesman was travelling around the country creating contacts and making sales calls to prospective new customers. Each night he stayed in a different hotel as he visited all the suitable businesses in that area. Just as he arrived at a hotel, on one of the days, he noticed big black dark clouds roll in and a strong cold wind come sweeping through the town. A couple of hours later he looked out of the window and was horrified to see a blinding snow storm. As he was eating dinner in the restaurant that night he started chatting to the waiter and he asked, “Do you think the roads will be clear enough in the morning to travel.” The waiter stood for a second pondering his answer and then replied, “Depends if you’re on a salary or a commission!”
So true! When our why is strong enough any work we have to do is an opportunity and a joy. When it’s not … all work we have to do is inconvenient and a chore. When our why is clear we bounce out of bed full of energy and power through the day to make it happen. When we have no clarity about why we want what we want, the snooze button is our best friend, lethargy sets in and we become a chronic hypochondriac.
. His point is pretty obvious, and just as Nike has communicated for many years … 'Just Do It!' I’d heard it before and I talk about it regularly – maybe not with such eloquence! The moment he actually got me was in his very last sentence … up until that time it was purely entertainment. Then he said, ‘If you’re tired of starting over – stop giving up!’
I know grammatically it’s not the best way to phrase it - being a double negative - but the point is clear. I had to stop and reflect on why that statement resonated with me so much … I realised that it was because I had made a habit of starting over with many things in my life. There are things I had given up on but, at the time, I hadn’t realised it because the story I sold myself was so convincing.
There are so many things we take for granted in our lives. There are miracles all around us that we often just expect will be there to make our lives easier and more convenient. Speaking for myself, I rarely stop to think about where they came from and who came up with the idea in the first place. Consider your smart phone … it makes life easier, more efficient and really is an amazing piece of technology … would you agree? Just for a second, consider the person who came up with the idea and the process required to get it into your hands and make a difference in your life.
A man walked on the moon … incredible. The motor car … how did it happen? Air travel …just, wow! The Great Wall of China … literally, one of the wonders of the world. Medical discoveries, technological advancements, architectural wonders, amazing human accomplishments and don’t forget you and your achievements to this point. How does it happen? What is it that moves people to achieve what they do? It’s a question I think about all the time and one that I often write about. Maybe I write about it too often … my motivation is to keep communicating the message in different ways until I can find one that most resonates with you. I want you to live the life of your dreams and I want you to know that you can.
Life tends to keep moving no matter what. Have you ever noticed that? Time has a way of marching forward irrespective of what we are doing and - more importantly - what we would like to be doing. I think it would be fair to say that we all wish things were different in certain areas of our life. Would that be true for you? I know it is for me. Life is a constant juggle in our attempts to fit everything in to a hectic lifestyle and try to have some kind of balance at the same time. We constantly need to make decisions about what we will invest our time and energy into and often we are forced to leave some things out – right? Those things we often suggest we still want to do but, for the moment, are ‘on the back burner.’ The biggest issue I see for many people is that they often put the wrong things ‘on the back burner’.
There are some things that – right now - need to be taken off the back burner and put on the hottest flame you can find. I want you to think about what you currently have on the back burner and the consequences in your life if they stay there. It’s far too often the case that things we put ‘on the back burner’ stay there for good … leaving us with less than we want in life. Many people are left with only pain, heartbreak and regret. That’s no good … so I want to challenge you right now and ask if you’re ready to reshuffle your stove-top?