I’ve got news for you ... you’re not perfect! That may come as much of a shock to you as it did for me! You’re good, in fact you’re amazing ... you’re just not perfect and you never will be. So, now is the time to let go of the need to have everything just right. Now is the time to stop trying to be perfect. Now is the time to ... finish what you start!
When I think back to all the things I’ve left incomplete ... it’s enough to make me want to break down and cry! Books I started reading, books I started writing, courses I intended to complete, businesses I wanted to get off the ground, projects I hoped to complete, friendships I didn’t take care of, relationships I planned to be long term, training programs I knew would give me the results I desired, eating regimes that would give me health & energy and many other things. I started them all with the intention of a perfect outcome and gave up at some stage of the process.
Imagine what your life could be like if ...
Hi, I'm Andrew. For over 25 years my journey has seen a professional football career, 7 day-a-week hard work in my own wellness businesses, becoming the author of three best-selling books & three eBooks and the heartbreak of losing my mum to cancer.
I found myself in a dark place after the death of my mother. Not just emotionally, but financially, physically and mentally. I began to imagine what my life could be like if I believed anything was possible ... it worked. After some serious changes in my thinking and in my daily actions, my life began to change for the better.
I now live a life of passion, of choice and totally in alignment with my core values. Every day is pure joy spent doing what I love with the people I love ... I believe it is the only way to live!
As a result, I am now passionate about helping people believe in their own power, use more of their potential, expand their personal boundaries and create positive long term change so they can live a happier, healthier and more dynamic life. It sounds simple but it is profoundly deep and meaningful. Through my 'motivational' speaking, writing, online writing workshops, coaching & mentoring, media, wellness programs and seminars I strive to ignite the passion in people to inspire and motivate them to believe in their own amazing power.
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
Please enjoy Andrew's blogs and please feel free to add any comments you see appropriate.
Life is full of amazing opportunities and possibility. There was a time, however, when I refused to open myself up to these opportunities because I was a ‘sceptic’. What a mistake! I have no idea what amazing opportunities I missed, nor where my life may be today if I had just suspended my scepticism and believed that I could learn, benefit and change my life. I’m grateful now that I’m open to any possiblity, but it saddens me to see many people making the same mistake I made. Like me, they are stuck in their current reality because they refuse to open themselves to new ideas ... because of ‘scepticism’.
What’s so intelligent and noble about scepticism anyway? Why are people so proud of it? If they understood how scepticism was holding them back and what it was preventing them from seeing and doing ... would they be so attached to it? The Oxford Dictionary definition of scepticism is; not easily convinced; having doubts or reservations. This is not neccessarily a bad thing ... unless you use it as an excuse not to investigate and get the facts.
This weeks message is an obvious but often neglected one. Why am I sharing it with you now? Because of my own neglect and procrastination I failed to consider the condition of my spare tyre ... until it was too late. I think I’m a pretty cool guy - for a 50 year old - and I’m very proud of many things that I do and have done in my life so far. There are times, however, when I would like to slap myself for repeated dumb-attacks. I hope that, by writing about it this week, something may spark in my brain to break my habit of neglecting the very important spare tyre. I hope it does the same for you ... if you need it.
It’s a story that’s been told time and time again by people just as talented, educated, capable and also prone to dumb-attacks as me. I got a puncture in one of my tyres a few weeks ago and was very proud of myself that I was actually able to change it ... all on my own. I took the spare tyre out of the boot of the car, put it on the car and placed the damaged tyre in my garage at home.
I’ve always been a fly-by-the-seat-of-your-pants kinda guy. My philosophy has been; give it a try then ... work out the details later. This has led me to some very expensive but valuable lessons. It’s also lead me to the greastest pleasures and passions of my life. If not for my openness to the ‘art of spontaneity’ I would not have what I have nor be doing what I’m doing today. I’m so glad I think less and act more ... I would encourage you to consider adding ‘spontaneity’ to your repetoire.
As I mentioned, this spontaneous and interesting decision making process of mine has led me to some very expensive and valuable lessons:
I’ve done several mentoring sessions with some wonderful people this week ... people who are going to make a massive difference in the world. The potential in these people , just as in you, is unlimited. The major barrier for them, which is the same for most of us, is that we are way too influenced by OPO ... other people’s opinions. Why do we pay so much attention to what other people say? Why do we let other people determine what we can and can’t achieve? Why do we care what they say when, everything that comes out of their mouth, is a reflection of their own experiences and beliefs ... it has nothing to do with us!
As you may know, I’m a passionate author and an even more passionate mentor for people wanting to write their own book(s). I truly believe every single person – yes, including you – can write an amazing book that will get published and successfully impact people all around the world. I do also understand that many people have and will start the process, give up at some point on their journey and then make excuses and justifications as to why they didn’t succeed.
I have an embarrasing confession to make ... I love ‘Family Feud’! I know, I know ... what am I thinking? It’s one of those little pleasures in life that I like to indulge myself with. Whilst I rarely get to watch it live because I’m out and being productive at that time of the day, I do love rewarding myself at night. Laura & I set ourselves up, in bed, with the iPad and watch the replay. I love the fun of it. I love watching families interact. I love being an expert know-it-all. I love that, quite often, families win $10,000. I love that, even on ‘family Feud’, I can find lessons and topics to blog about!
So, during the week I was set up in bed at the end of a great day excited to watch ‘Family Feud’. If you’re not sure how it works, each episode there is a carry over champion family and a new family who battle it out. The new family, on this particular day, was the Edwards family ... a nice enough family.
Have you ever started on a project, goal or aspiration with passion and enthusiasm? Me too. Have you ever worked hard for days, weeks, months and even years, focused on this dream, and felt like you were getting no-where? Me too. Have you ever felt like giving up, tossing it in and finding an easier option? Me too. Have you actually ever given up? Me too. What I’ve found, however, is that there is no easier option ... d’oh! The path we are on is the best one and the actions we are taking are the right ones. The error we are making is common ... we are simply judging our results too early.
I love the story about the old man on his deathbed who calls his two sons in for the last time. He is a wealthy man and wants to give his sons a choice of how they receive their inheritance. The first option is an immediate $1,000,000 payment. The second option is a purse with a one cent coin in it ... the contents of the purse will double and continue to double each day for 31 days.
Each week I send out my blog to you and the other people on my database, and each week there are people who ‘unsubscribe’. I’m okay with that, I don’t take it personally ... in fact I can understand it. I’m annoying & the blogs are annoying! Annoying because they’re always so frustratingly positive! ‘There’s always a sliver-lining’, ‘look for the lesson’, ‘your attitude is everything’, ‘the universe will deliver’, ‘be optimistic’, ‘leave room for miracles’ ... blah, blah, blah! They may all be true, and they may all suggest a better way to live ... but I’m sure they are annoying to some people who don’t always want to be positive. Sometimes we just want to ‘spit the dummy’ and be cranky!
Not long ago I had one of those days ... it was a shocker! I tried all the strategies I know and write about each week, but I couldn’t be bothered with any of the positive mumbo jumbo! I just wanted to have a crappy attitude ... I wanted to ‘spit the dummy’ ... and I wanted to be a real sooky-la-la!
‘Yeah, yeah ... I’ve heard it but I don’t believe it!’ I’d heard all this talk about the universe and that you can attract what you focus on but, to be honest, I never really believed it. It didn’t make any logical sense to me ... even though many things seemed to happen that I simply put down to luck or coincidence. Then I started asking myself ... what is luck & coincidence? It’s just as abstract a concept as is the ‘law of attraction’ & the notion that the universe can deliver to us what we want.
What’s recently intrigued me is how ‘luck & coincidence’ seem to happen just as we are immersed in an idea or captivated by the pursuit of some goal. There has to be more to it and, call me naive but, I choose to believe there is. I had a wonderful example of this happen to me just this week.
Have you ever heard the saying, ‘Insanity is doing the same thing over & over and expecting a different result’? I know I’m insane because there are things I do that I’m so attached to and, for some reason, I resist letting go of them. Even though, by hanging on, they are holding me back from achieving what I really want. Do you relate? I’m about to tell you a story that immediately made me realise how silly i’ve been ... it’s inspired me to re-think and to ‘let go of the banana’!
Spider monkeys are an in-demand species for zoos all over the world and are actually very easy to capture. A banana is placed in a clear container with a very narrow opening. The container is tied securely to a tree and then left on the ground in areas inhabited by these monkeys. The opening at the top of the jar, or whatever container they use, is very narrow, but wide enough for the Spider Monkey to squeeze its hand and arm in to.