not logic. We might try to pass it off as a considered decision and back it up with facts, reasoning and logic, however … we are emotional beings continually looking to gain positive feelings or avoid negative ones. You and I have done it before. We’ve emotionally spent money we didn’t really have, on something we really didn’t need … haven’t we? We then justified very logically why it was an essential purchase. I mean, that 62 inch flat screen TV was the only thing that fit that large blank space on the wall …wasn’t it? And, my eyesight is starting to fail so the largest TV screen available is essential … right? The reality is that it was emotion, nothing more, that motivated the purchase.
Feelings are with us all the time and are directing our lives. We often blame them for the things we do and the outcomes we experience. Have you ever blamed being upset for not wanting to go out to that seminar to learn about better health or improved business strategies? Have you ever used your bad mood to justify why you spoke poorly to your spouse, your business partner or your employee? Have you ever let lethargy stop you from going to the gym, writing your book or making those necessary phone calls?
There are no accidents in life ...
Andrew Jobling started out as a passionate but clueless footballer. With a vision of and obsession about a long and lucrative professional football career in mind, little time was left to consider other insignificant things in life … reading, academics and education.
After being beaten around the head many times and in pain for most of his football career he decided to launch into in the health & fitness industry. After all the abuse he received from heartless fitness trainers in his professional sporting career, it was payback time! He has spent almost 30 years passionate about helping people with their health and wellbeing.
In 2002 he made, what appeared to be, an illogical and irrational decision. At the time he was running two businesses, working 15 hour days and 7 days per week. He had a personal training business that was putting money into his bank account and café that was taking it straight back out again.
Nevertheless, with no qualifications, background, ability or time he decided to write a book!
With a powerful message he wanted to convey, committing small pockets of time to writing each day and with a strong desire to get it done, two years later Andrew was holding his first book Eat Chocolate Drink Alcohol and be Lean & Healthy in his hands. He is still puzzled but immensely grateful as to how it actually happened. He has since gone to write four published books (with two more coming in 2016) and three e-books.
That seemingly accidental decision catapulted his career into a completely different direction and put him on a wonderful path as an author, speaker and author mentor. He now passionately spends his time writing, speaking and helping people all around the world to believe that, no matter how unlikely something may seem, with desire, decision and daily action ... anything is possible!.
Andrew jokes that he is an Accidental Author, but the truth is he believes that, whilst some things are unlikely, there really are no accidents in life;
‘We create our destiny by dreaming bigger than most people would think reasonable, by believing in ourselves more than most people would think sensible, by making decisions that most people would think illogical and continuing to act way beyond the point that most people would have given up.'
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
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The universe is amazing! I really don’t understand how it works … but it has the power to deliver to us what we give our focus and attention to. This can be either desirable or undesirable … depending on what we focus on. I do however think we, as humans, sometimes look for the easiest of options and only listen to and believe part of the truth. Many watched the documentary movie ‘The Secret’, got excited, started focussing on & affirming what they wanted … yet wondered why it still wasn’t happening for them.
I have to admit that, embarrassing as it is, I was one of those people. I wanted money and as a result of watching ‘The Secret’, I started repeating the affirmations … ‘unexpected cheques arrive in my mail’, ‘money flows abundantly and continuously into my bank account’ and ‘I am wildly wealthy and successful.’ Now, don’t get me wrong … there’s nothing wrong with these affirmations. My mistake was naively believing that, just repeating the affirmations, would result in money magically appearing in my life. I was deluded because I was missing the most vital ingredient of the process … action!
Why are we so heavily influenced by other people’s opinions? Why do we let other people cause us to second guess ourselves and our decisions? Why do we often let others determine the things we do and the life we live? What makes them right anyway? Why are we so hesitant to trust ourselves, our intuition and the decisions we make? It’s time to take a stand. It’s time to believe in yourself, your dreams and your goals. Know deep in your heart, and say to them in your head, … “I’m right, you’re wrong!”
I’m very excited that I recently received a contract to have my sixth book accepted for publication. It is my fourth publisher and I believe it’s my best book yet. However, in the process, I had to overcome the opinion of another publisher I submitted the manuscript to. It was someone whom I respected which made a rejection even tougher to take!
Have you ever done a jigsaw puzzle? Did you know that the life you want is just like a jigsaw puzzle? There are many many pieces that make up a jigsaw puzzle … the most important being the picture on the box. Can you imagine trying to put a 1000-piece jigsaw puzzle together without the picture? It would be a painful and frustrating process. Similarly, without a clear picture of what you want, putting your ideal life together will be a painful and frustrating journey.
There is, however, more to it than just having a clear picture of what you want. The key to get ‘the key’ to open the door to a successful life requires work on the one person who can make it happen … you!
It’s a new day, a blank page and a fresh start … if you choose it to be. The world is an exciting place of adventure and opportunity when we allow ourselves to believe. The challenge for many people – maybe even you – is that often the beautiful view of possibility in our future is clouded by the adversity, mistakes or failures of the past. You can’t drive forward whilst continually looking in the rear vision mirror. Now’s the time to get excited about a new day, clean the slate, draw a line in the sand and enjoy a new beginning.
There was a big angry brown grizzly bear stomping through the woods looking hungrily for his next meal when he was seduced by the most delicious aroma wafting through the air. He followed his nose and it led him to an unattended camp site. The mouth-watering smells were coming from a large pot bubbling away on an open fire. The bear couldn’t control his urges and he went to see what was for lunch.
Imagine this scenario … you’re trapped in a room with no doors, no windows and enclosed by four seemingly insurmountable and impenetrable brick walls. Outside of this room is the person you care about most in the whole world ... their life is in danger. You have only 15 minutes to get to them or you will never see this person again. What do you do? Do you sit down and cry? Do you complain that life isn’t fair? Do you stomp around and have a hissy fit? Or do what it takes to get through the brick wall and get to this person?
We all know the answer to this question … don’t we? We would focus, we would chisel, we would climb, we would scratch, we would claw and no matter what … we would get out, over or through that brick wall to save the person we care about most.
I love the movie A Knights Tale. It’s the story of a poor young servant man, William, who desperately wants to change his stars. William is one of the servants to a long-in-the-tooth knight who is coming to the end of a lengthy and illustrious competitive jousting career. When the old knight dies just before a competition, William seizes the opportunity to take the knights identity and compete in his place … with his name. The moment the poor young servant boy puts on the knights suit of armour he is transformed. In an instant he changes from a humble and insignificant servant to a powerful and confident knight. He is protected from danger and immune to the negative opinions of others … he becomes Sir Ulbrecht from Leichtenstein.
Last weekend I had the pleasure of running a workshop in beautiful Adelaide. I connected with and got to know a group of inspiring and motivating aspiring authors. We spent two days together talking about writing books and creating a life to be passionate about. One of the things I spent time on is the main reason why we do or don’t do the things we need to do to get the result we want … our self-belief and self-talk. A few days after the workshop I received an email from one of the people who attended …
I’m currently sitting on a plane and heading to Adelaide. I chose my destination, purchased the ticket, arrived at the airport and here I am sitting on the plane. I’m pretty comfortable and relaxed because I’m confident it will arrive in Adelaide. I don’t have to worry about landing in Brisbane or Kalgoorlie, why? … because it’s a plane headed to Adelaide. There have been times, however, when I’ve headed off in my car to a destination, taken a wrong turn and ended up at a totally different place to the one in which I intended arriving. I would be angry and frustrated wondering how I ended up up so lost. The answer was quite simple, the road I took lead to the place I ended up. It was no surprise and it was not bad luck …. I predictably ended up where I was headed.
This all sounds so obvious doesn’t it? It makes sense that if I’m on a plane heading to Adelaide, I will arrive there. If I want to go to Tasmania, then the plane to Adelaide won’t get me there and, if I am on that plane, I shouldn’t be surprised when I don’t end up in Tasmania. It’s not random and it’s not luck … it’s all about direction!
You are a winner … I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again many times. You’re a successful, disciplined, goal seeking and achieving champion. If you’re sitting there and arguing with me on this one then just ask yourself this question … ‘have I achieved something I set out to do in the last 24 hours?’ Let me help you with this. Did you brush your teeth? Did you get up and complete any tasks you needed to perform? Did you leave the house with a destination in mind and arrive there successfully? See … you’re a winner!!
You may be saying, ‘Those things are easy, I don’t have to think about them … what about other important things that I just can’t seem to commit to?’ As always, I have the answer! When you were a child do you think you just automatically started brushing your teeth every day? Of course you didn’t! You’re parents made sure you brushed them and checked up on you each morning and night … you were accountable to them. If they didn’t keep you accountable when you were a child, would you have brushed your teeth every day? Probably not! Would you still have your teeth today? Probably not!
How many times have you beaten yourself up over mistakes you’ve made, things you’ve said, rejections you’ve got and failed attempts you’ve experienced? If you’re anything like me, that would be … most of the time! I’ve often thought that if I spoke to my friends the way I sometimes speak to myself I would be a very lonely person!! What about you? The thing I now know and believe is that the only way to success is through failure. If most of the things you are doing aren’t working, then keeping going … you’re right on track!
The late great Colonel Sanders, in his attempts to sell his recipe for fried chicken many years ago, was rejected an incredible 1009 times before he heard an answer he wanted. If you had the same mathematics education I did, that is one out 1009 or a 0.1% success rate! So you could say that 99.9% of what he attempted didn’t work … I think, however, it would be fair to say that the 0.1% that did work created incredible abundance in his life. His key to success … not judging his results too early.