‘It’s not the right time’. ‘I’ve had a busy day and I’m tired’. ‘I couldn’t be bothered.’ ‘I’m just not motivated today.’ ‘I don’t feel inspired right now.’ ‘I’ve had a bad day and I’m not in the mood.’ ‘I’m not feeling it at the moment.’ ‘I’m too stressed.’ ‘It’s too hard, too hot, too cold, too wet and too windy!!’ Have you ever heard yourself saying one or more of those statements? If not, then you must be happy, healthy, wealthy and free! If you have, then you’re probably wondering why you haven’t been able to achieve all the things in your life that you really want. Are you ready to know the answer?
The problem for most of us mere mortals is that we erroneously believe we need to feel motivated, inspired, knowledgeable and ready before we can take action on the journey towards a desired achievement. We wait for this feeling of inspiration to wash over us so we can then launch into massive action and easily get the job done … right? I know too many people who have been waiting a very long time for this mystical power to take hold and it’s my humble opinion that they are going to continue to wait until they realise the truth … inspiration comes after action and not before.
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Hi, I'm Andrew. For over 25 years my journey has seen a professional football career, 7 day-a-week hard work in my own wellness businesses, becoming the author of three best-selling books & three eBooks and the heartbreak of losing my mum to cancer.
I found myself in a dark place after the death of my mother. Not just emotionally, but financially, physically and mentally. I began to imagine what my life could be like if I believed anything was possible ... it worked. After some serious changes in my thinking and in my daily actions, my life began to change for the better.
I now live a life of passion, of choice and totally in alignment with my core values. Every day is pure joy spent doing what I love with the people I love ... I believe it is the only way to live!
As a result, I am now passionate about helping people believe in their own power, use more of their potential, expand their personal boundaries and create positive long term change so they can live a happier, healthier and more dynamic life. It sounds simple but it is profoundly deep and meaningful. Through my 'motivational' speaking, writing, online writing workshops, coaching & mentoring, media, wellness programs and seminars I strive to ignite the passion in people to inspire and motivate them to believe in their own amazing power.
Andrew's Blog ... the question is; can a footballer write?
I don't know about you, but this doesn't look like an author and writer to me ... or most people!
Andrew loves writing! This would sound strange to anyone who knew his his background ... it certainly wouldn't suggest that a literary career would be on the cards. He was a typical footballer with an typical attitude towards reading & education ... a waste of hours between each opportunity to play sport! He truly is an accidental author, writer and blogger!
He is passionate about helping others and through writing he feels able to reach more people. His books & blog posts are all about helping people see, believe and fulfill more of the amazing potential they have ... that means you too! There is incredible possibility & potential in every person and there is an amazing impact through the power of written word.
Please enjoy Andrew's blogs and please feel free to add any comments you see appropriate.
I have to admit it … I’m a bit of a chicken and there are many things that scare me. I’m scared of making phone calls and getting a negative response. I’m scared of other people’s opinions when they are not in alignment with my own. I’m scared of taking-off in an airplane and I’m scared of landing in an airplane. I’m scared of trying new things and looking silly or not being successful. I’m scared of my Sicilian wife when I say or do something dumb … I would hate to ‘sleep with the fishies!’ There are many things that scare me and most are silly … I know it.
I got some great perspective this week as I was listening to an audio about success and achievement. The speaker, amongst many things, was a passionate surfer and was talking about a recent experience when he was out in the surf on the NSW coast. As he was lying on his board way off shore, enjoying the serenity and waiting for the next great wave, he saw a massive shadow emerge below him. It was big and it was just hovering around him.
I’m as far from a handyman as anyone could possibly be. In fact … I’m an embarrassment to the male species! I have trouble changing a light globe, changing a tyre, hanging a picture and when it comes to putting together Ikea furniture … don’t even go there! I’ve tried to put together flatpacks before and, for some reason, the holes never line up. Let me re-phrase … they do eventually line up, with a lot of force! I force the holes to get close, I force the screw in and … within a few hours the project has fallen apart and is a mess on the floor!
I was driving home the other day and in the distance I saw a truck that had stopped under a railway bridge. It was diagonally positioned across the road and I was intrigued as to what was happening. As I got closer I looked, but what I saw didn’t actually register for a few moments. I saw a rental truck with no roof and wedged under the bridge. When I say no roof, what I mean is that there actually was a roof …it just happened to be lying in a crumpled mess on the road.
I am a spontaneous action-taker and, for a long time, a chronic under-planner. I get an idea in my head and without too much thought or analysis of the pros and cons … away I go! Whilst this personality trait has lead me to many amazing achievements – for which I will be eternally grateful - it has has also resulted in far too frequent painful & expensive lessons and undesirable situations. I will always embrace my spontaneity and encourage others to do the same, but now I spend more time ‘putting on my shoes’ …
In a land far-far-away a great sporting rivalry had developed, over many years, between two great teams … the large animals and the small creatures. Each year these two teams battle-it-out on the football field to determine which is the best team in the land. In one particular year the two teams took to the field, with fluffy testosterone flowing, and the game commenced.
and survive to see another day? We often wear ‘being busy’ as a badge of honour. We are proud to respond when asked ‘how are you?’ with, ‘Really busy!’ For many people, including myself at times, we use it as an excuse for … not calling people back, lateness and unreliability, not dealing with important issues and, most critically, not prioritising the time for those things most significant to living a joy-filled, prosperous and healthy life. How do I know this stuff all so well? Quite simply because it’s me! It has been and still is to a certain extent … that is, until I found my space!
About 6-7 years ago I got a call from my beautiful wife Laura. She said she had a surprise for me … I was immediately worried! We had been married for a year and life was good, with the exception that - for the most part - I was totally pre-occupied with being … you guessed it – ‘BUSY!’ I was busy writing books, busy on my website, busy on social media, busy trying get speaking gigs, busy on the phone, busy sending emails and busy doing things that were quite honestly and most probably not that important. I thought they were important and I often wouldn’t drag myself away from the computer because I was under the mistaken impression that ‘busy’ meant ‘productive’ … wrong!
What are you waiting for? More time? More money? A better economy? A new government? The right opportunity? Better weather? More motivation? The new year? The new week? Tomorrow? Other peoples approval? More ability? More knowledge? The phone to ring? For it to feel right? To be told what to do? For someone to do it for you? The stars to align? A sign from above?
Every now and then I need to write a blog for me!
I’ve learned many lessons over the years and I think the biggest - the single most important key to success - is the one I would like to share this week. This blog has been inspired by my amazing wife Laura and the passion, enthusiasm and energy with which she approaches everything she does. During the week we had two stalls at an Expo. I had a stall promoting my books, book writing workshop and mentoring services. Laura had a stand, right next to me, where she was promoting her fantastic range of men’s skincare. As I was looking around the Expo at other stand holders, I could see most of them sitting behind their trestle tables and waiting for people to come to them. Then I watched Laura …
She was not waiting patiently behind her table hoping, on the off chance, that some man might walk up to her and say, ‘Gee, I really need to start a skincare regime … what a co-incidence you are here!’ She was out in the action. She grabbed every man who walked passed, enquired about their shaving and skincare habits and, without even asking if they were interested, started cleansing, treating and moisturising them … on the spot!
Earlier this week I was fortunate to meet up with a wonderful and very successful business lady, Sue. We were having a great chat as she mesmerised me with the story of the company she had built up over 30 years and recently sold. She explained that after selling it - her baby – she agreed to stay on and work in the business for a period of time. It didn’t take long for her to realise that the new owners did not have the same vision, passion, ideals, discipline or people skills that she had used to build a successful company. Consequently the business started to struggle. It began to become quite distressing and stressful for Sue as she watched the company, she had started and put so much into over so many years, fall apart.
The person appointed as CEO was ill-equipped to lead. He lacked people skills, struggled with staff morale and often resorted to bullying to get his way. Sue talked about one instance, shortly before she left the company for good, when she and this CEO had butted heads.
In an experiment used to identify the differences between a positive and a negative mindset, two young 8 year old boys were unkowingly used as subjects. One of the boys was whiney, complaining and largely negative in his outlook, whilst the other was happy, care-free with a very positive nature. The boys were placed in two different rooms, the doors locked and they were told someone would be back to let them out in 60 minutes. The first boy was placed into a bright and colourful room with all the most amazing, fun and exciting toys an eight year old could possibly hope for. The second boy was placed into a dark, drab and stinky room full of nothing but a large mountain of freshly processed hay … horse manure that is!
Sixty minutes later the door was opened on the first boy who the researchers expected to find laughing and having a great time with all the wonderful toys. Instead he was found sitting in the corner of the room bawling inconsolably. When asked what was wrong, through his tears, the little boy said, “These toys are no good! The wheel fell off that toy car. I can’t ride the bike because I keep falling off. The remote control robot is boring. The video games are too difficult. The ball bounced off the wall and hit me in the head. I’m hungry and there’s no food. It’s not fair … I’m having a terrible time!”
I was walking through a large shopping centre the other day and I came to a well-known bookshop. I went in and asked at the counter if they had in stock a copy of a great new book called Accidental Author by Andrew Jobling. It’s just recently released so I was excited and expecting to see it on the shelf. The moment they told me that they didn’t have it in stock I had a choice. I could ‘spit the dummy’, stamp my feet and whine becasue it wasn’t on the shelf. Instead I thought … this is an opportunity. I told the girl that I was the author and asked whether they ever have authors come and do book signings and events.
She said that they do and they love having local authors come in to the store to promote their books. She gave me the number and email address of the store manager and I left feeling very glad I asked the question. It was Oprah Winfrey who said it … ‘you get in life what you have the courage to ask for.’ Boy … has it worked for her!